Oh, that's the real subject for today's post. Stress management. I believe I require a review.
According to the DOCC model (we're nearing the end of Step One, which is outlined here), the two major strategies for effective stress management are to:
- Build up your energy reserves (adequate sleep, consistent exercise, hobbies, enjoyable time with family and friends, setting boundaries, positive conflict resolution, and time alone)
- Minimize the effect of negative emotions (typically this is anxiety fueled by anger). Make sure you're not equating hard work with deserving happiness (living a generous life typically leads to satisfaction but there are no guarantees), or equating happiness with financial success (happiness is much more often the absence of overwhelming negative emotion like anxiety).
The visual for this is plugging a tub and then filling it up, preventing the drain from sucking all the good stuff out.
But metaphors aren't working for me today. It's been a swampland of muck and all I want is an actual tub, filled with dry, good-smelling bubbles and hot, hot water. This is one level of stress management--knowing what it will take to right your boat and putting the solution in motion.
A preliminary level, but it's a start, as is this post.
Tomorrow will be better and I'll be able to remember what I've learned and tried for stress management while recovering from PCS.
Tomorrow will be better.