Monday, October 5, 2015

Mind Change Day 5: This blog project was a Very Bad Idea

I'm flogging away at this blog post but every word I write has to be deleted. Thirty posts in thirty days? When I've never done more than four in a month? Totally nuts, and totally stressing me out.

Oh, that's the real subject for today's post. Stress management. I believe I require a review.

According to the DOCC model (we're nearing the end of Step One, which is outlined here), the two major strategies for effective stress management are to:

  • Build up your energy reserves (adequate sleep, consistent exercise, hobbies, enjoyable time with family and friends, setting boundaries, positive conflict resolution, and time alone)
  • Minimize the effect of negative emotions (typically this is anxiety fueled by anger). Make sure you're not equating hard work with deserving happiness (living a generous life typically leads to satisfaction but there are no guarantees), or equating happiness with financial success (happiness is much more often the absence of overwhelming negative emotion like anxiety). 
The visual for this is plugging a tub and then filling it up, preventing the drain from sucking all the good stuff out. 

But metaphors aren't working for me today. It's been a swampland of muck and all I want is an actual tub, filled with dry, good-smelling bubbles and hot, hot water. This is one level of stress management--knowing what it will take to right your boat and putting the solution in motion. 

A preliminary level, but it's a start, as is this post. 

Tomorrow will be better and I'll be able to remember what I've learned and tried for stress management while recovering from PCS. 

Tomorrow will be better.

Love, Lisa


  1. Blogging daily is HARD. I did it in 2009 soon after I'd started my blog during that six week period between the Kentucky Derby and the Belmont Stakes. (I know. You're not a horse person. :) No worries. :) I have a point to make. :) )

    What all that means is, I was writing posts inspired by events in sports news on The Triple Crown Trail, not writing very personal essays, which is a very special kind of hard. Your blog posts are self-analytical and, even, helpful to all of us traveling healing journeys.

    In these days of Facebook, blogging is super hard because you think you're standing on a boulder on the North Rim of the Grand Canyon and sending out your soul to apparently No One. But, then again, you never know who's out there and whose day you're helping.

    So, hang in there. Keep up the good work, both what's visible here on the blog and on your healing journey.


    1. You're the best, Rhonda :). Thanks for your cool and helpful thoughts.

      I am cramming as much info and experience as I can into these 30 days because I think if you're hurting, waiting a week or two for a follow-up to something that's struck a chord is frustrating, and wastes momentum.

      I think the posts are more genuine and honest if I don't endlessly rewrite them, and therefore more potentially helpful both in my treatment and in someone else's.

      So I chose this instead of writing more polished posts over a longer period of time. It's like the NaNoWriMo of blogging. I hope it's worth the trade-off. ;) Lisa