Thursday, October 22, 2015

Mind Change Day 22: Why Are You Here?

Today's step is on ingrained patterns, and the suggestion that you might be close to yourself to see your global patterns of behavior.

You think ;)?

I went to my glorious nephew's confirmation tonight with a long-range camera lens. Mind you, I am not supposed to be taking pictures in Church. I know this. And yet--I took pictures until my brother told me to stop.

How can you not take pics when your nephew looks vividly grown-up, and your son is the sponsor? And you have a camera with a long-range lens in your hands? Of course you take pictures. Yes, here you go, a little postcard:
 But you're a little too close, aren't you? In this picture you really can't tell what's going on. They could be at a Bar Mitzvah or wedding or graduation or suit fitting. To understand what's really going on, you need a broader lens.

In other words, get some therapy. I have, and once I got my head around my inability to get the therapist to see my point exactly as I did, it was very freeing. Therapists are not a fan of the petty and make sure you focus on what's really important, at whatever pace you're able.

But also: get perspective in other ways too. One of them is to think more about your purpose on earth, and your life philosophy.

Is life a pinball machine of random and I have only bumper bars to influence what happens?
Or is my life unfolding as intended so I can relax, sit back and know that every day I'm doing exactly what I'm meant to be doing?

I'm middle ground on this one. I'm here for a reason, but it's up to me to find and fulfill my purpose.

Skipping ahead to Stage 4 (because I am a skimmer and skipper to orient myself before I go back and read something in depth), there's a step in "Get Organized" on picking and learning an organizational system, and part of Dr. Hansom's chosen system (David Allen's Getting Things Done) still comes down to this: what is your mission in life? And is how your living aligned with that belief?

Skipping back to Stage 2, anxiety is at his heart a misalignment of what you're doing and what you think you should be doing. These two things rub together and cause cognitive dissonance, that unsettled feeling that you're off the mark but unclear why. Whether you find the biggest "rubs" and fix them because you realize they're not consistent with your purpose, or personal philosophy, or goals in life, or behavior as pointed out to you by a therapist or fair-minded loved one, the end result is the same:

The more you do what you're on earth to do, the less you'll feel anxiety over the time and energy you spend on all the rest.

We're nearing the end of Stage 3, and this 30 day blog project. How far will we get in using mind-body strategies to treat my post-concussive syndrome?

No further than I've gotten in the last six months (naturally). How far is that? Stay tuned and think deep ;), just for today.

Love, Lisa

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